If you're expecting a baby, then Jade is a lady you want to know. With a passion for birth, she not only runs Aberdeen Hypnobirthing and an online shop for mums and mums to be (check out SONA Mum here), but the Positive Birth Aberdeen group on Facebook too, which means you can access support from local birth professionals and other mums at the touch of button! Jade kindly answered some questions for me so you can find out a little bit more about hypnobirthing, positive birth and how she juggles two businesses and two children!
Tell me what inspired you to train as a HypnoBirthing teacher?
I’m a HypnoBirthing mum; the births of my own babies inspired me!
Taking the classes was like a breath of fresh air, I had heard so many negative things and I kept thinking, there has to be another way – I’m so fortunate that I found it!
I kept telling all my friends (and perhaps even some random pregnant ladies too) how wonderful it was, one of them said why don’t you teach it, you’re so passionate about it – and now I do!
How can hypnobirthing contribute to a positive birth?
As part of my work I help women with past birth trauma, the common themes I hear time and time again are loss of control, loss of understanding and feeling like they had no choices.
It really makes me appreciate the importance of antenatal education, I never promise women will have the perfect birth, but from my experience over the past few years, I can really see what a difference HypnoBirthing can make. Women who understand how their body works and have spent a lot of time researching and understanding their options and have the confidence to ask their care provider questions do tend to have a more positive birth experience.
One of the most important parts of HypnoBirthing is building confidence and eliminating fear, it’s amazing to hear women go from feeling frightened, stressed and unsure to looking forward to their births with excitement and confidence.
What does a hypnobirthing course entail?
HypnoBirthing has 6 main elements which we cover thoroughly during the course:
1. Breathing – most people are aware that breathing is a great tool to use in birth
2. Relaxation Techniques – relaxation is a skill most of us have to learn! We’re so busy these days that most of us don’t take the time to relax and connect with our own bodies. I really believe that learning to relax deeply is the key to having a calm, comfortable birth
3. Visualisation – like athletes preparing for an event mentally to increase their chance of winning, mental preparation and visualisation is important in birth too, it’s rare that we see normal birth now unlike a few generations back when home birth was the norm, we have a visual of birth built up from films and tv shows which is often over dramatised!
4. Affirmations – these go along with visualisation to help you affirm your belief in your body and feel confident, there’s lots of fun things you can do with these lovely positive statements but simply listening to them and repeating your favourites helps
5. Education – this is such an import aspect of the course, generally our knowledge of our bodies is very limited, learning how our body works in labour can help you feel more confident during labour
6. Self-Hypnosis – This is where the ‘hypno’ in hypnobirthing comes from! Hypnosis is deep relaxation and you learn the skills to enable you to relax and remain calm and in control throughout labour and birth.
You also run the popular Facebook group, Positive Birth Group Aberdeen - it seems to be a really supportive space for women to talk
It’s fantastic; I’m so amazed by the women in the group and the support they give each other.
I started the group a few years ago, at the time there was nowhere like it locally, when I had my kids a couple of years ago there were lots of groups for new mums, breastfeeding, babywearing etc. but nowhere focusing on pregnancy locally.
We have almost 900 members in Aberdeen and Aberdeenshire; mums to be, experienced mums, midwives and other health professionals so you can always find someone to answer any question you have.
How do you juggle the needs of two small children with running your own business?
For any other mums with little ones trying to make it work and reading this in hope of some wonderful secret formula – I’m sorry I don’t have one for you. It involves constant shifting boundaries as my kids grow and need different care, as nap times decrease and independence grows.
I know one thing for sure it’s not easy to be a stay at home mum and run a business but having the company of others in the same position really does help. If you’re struggling to juggle everything, know that you’re not alone and if you’re having a bad day and need a cup of tea then please just send me a message or email me. I love chatting with other mums in a similar position; we need to work together, to say yes when another mum reaches out and support each other. I’m always happy to chat over a cup of tea, as long as you can cope with chaos around you, you’re very welcome!
And if anyone knows the secret – please do share it with me!
What would your top tip be to pregnant women for their birth?
I used to say to my friends – take a HypnoBirthing class, it was definitely my top tip, however, these days it sounds rather biased!
I think the most important thing is to learn about your body, how it works in labour and birth. We tend to know so little about our bodies that going into labour can be an unknown and frightening activity. Understanding will give you more confidence that your body is doing what it should do and understanding all the wonderful ways your body and baby work together to make birthing easier for you will help you feel empowered and capable.
Where can we find out more about Aberdeen HypnoBirthing?
If you’re on Facebook you can keep up to date through our page: https://www.facebook.com/AberdeenHypnoBirthing/
There’s also the Positive Birth Group Aberdeen: https://www.facebook.com/groups/positivebirthaberdeen/
Thanks Jade! Jade is running a Hypnobirthing Taster Session this month to give you an insight to hypnobirthing before booking a full course - you can find out more information by clicking here